This is turning into a subtle and fascinating topic. I'm not enough of a "true believer" to think that everything I see in the cards MUST be true (although there is almost always a glimpse of truth there, if we can only see it). But I'm convinced that most human beings are flawed, either in large or small ways (even those who seem the most "perfect" will tell us that), so nothing that shows up in the cards surprises me or draws much of a reaction from me.
I've been doing occasional readings on our neighbors (he would be mortified if he suspected his fishing buddy is a tarot reader; she would be intrigued) because they have a rather "challenging" relationship that we've been trying to figure out and "match speeds" with for the sake of friendship. They seem starved for friendship but not really sure how to keep one going. We know they have some long-standing relationship problems (she left once, years ago, and came back) - he's a bluff alpha-male Leo type and she is a really anal Virgo - and they constantly butt heads over their overly-dependent adult daughter. (He's the "Daddy's little girl" type and she's the "hard-nose.") His wife is always whining to mine about him, while he's completely oblivious.The glue that holds them together appears to be money, which both have from their own entrepreneurial pasts.
So . . . do we do anything intrusive about this, beyond learning where the boundaries are so we don't over-commit ourselves and become "enablers" or "patsies" in their marital drama? I shouldn't think so; if we don't like something they're doing, we just don't engage, and come back later when the dust has settled. I use tarot in all of this to gauge the present dynamic when it seems worthwhile to do so. I've seen enough already to recognize the "lay of the land," and this fills in the background for our first-hand experience with them.
Is this unethical (other than the fact that I'm telling you about it)? It seems more like wisdom to me, and a valuable tool in understanding human relations.