How do i break this negative cycle that rj and myself are in for good ?
Hey, for this I got:
fox-whip-stars-clouds-fish (base: woman)
I am not sure which one of you is the female, but with the "woman" card at the base it looks like the female in this relationship should take on the initiative of getting out the negative cycle.
Fox: Use your wits, and be clever like a fox. I also take this to mean "be on the alert" instead of going with the tide. If you want to break the cycle of pain, then you will have to keep your wits about you and identify the potential warning signs before it sucks you in again.
Whip: This card can mean argument, but I don't think the cards are advocating for verbal conflict for this situation. I would like to see this as the cards telling you that you should take action (a very proactive action) to stop this. It can also mean that you should keep repeating something -- for example, if rj asks that you do something and despite not wanting to, you have a hard time saying no, then you should practice saying no again and again. If you were lacking giving rj positive responses, then you should practice giving him/her compliments.
Stars: This is the focus card which means "yes, you can do this." Do not lose hope that you can't get out of the negativity.
Clouds: In this case, the cards are telling you what NOT to do: "cloud" card denotes here thinking clearly and not letting anything cloud (no pun intended) your judgment. Also, do not be vague when it comes to dealing with rj -- be concise, clear, and concrete so that there's no room for misinterpretation.
Fish: This card can mean "being independent," so I am wondering if you had been relying too much on rj (e.g., emotionally) in the past. Kind of like an addiction. It is time for you to break out of it. Does this make sense?
I hope my reading resonated.