Thanks Mitsuraki - you have shed some really good light on a few of the card interpretations and I appreciate your detailed explanation. It helps me learn how I should associate those cards in the future. I also have some queries in response to your observations so would appreciate some additional clarification.
That’s why I love this forum!
To be honest, even a couple of the associations I made while responding to your reading were new ones for me that just…clicked!
Can I infer that you're referring to the minor arcana cycle, i.e. Wands, Cups, Swords, & lastly Pentacles? And therefore if I map it to all the cards in the spread, it refers to thoughts before action (i.e. Queen & King of Pentacles). And it being King of Swords, it could mean she's in the last stages of the thought process?
Actually, that’s the first I’ve heard of someone with that kind of take on the cycle! The main cycle I’ve heard of is that, yes, the whole set of minor arcana is a cycle, generally a cycle of time, though. I really like the idea of what you are describing, though, because it sheds light on why some decks order the suits one way, and others another way. It also really explains personality a little, because some people will start developing whatever it is in, say, the suit of Swords, thoughts, and have to work all their way back around to Swords before they can/will do whatever it is, which says something about who they are, but someone else may not need to go through all four suits or may even start in pentacles. But yes, I would say that she is in the last stages of the thought process. Do remember, though, there are another 14 cards before finishing the pentacles, too!
This is interesting as I had an earlier spread on her which she sees Knight of Wands as "desires" of the rs, which kind of mean a non-committed short but fun fling. Does this then mean fundamentally she is someone non-committal? I wonder what's driving this non-commitment or what can I do to convince for a commitment?
It can also mean a person who loves journeys or traveling. A sort of…spun to fit the question version of that sounds like she’s the kind who isn’t willing or isn’t ready to settle down. With all of the other cards that are around this woman, it makes me think of three possibilities. One, she’s a non-monogamous person (also non-poly) and has no desire to change how she’s wired to want to be in a relationship with someone who wants to be monogamous. She may just be one of those people who likes to fool around with people but never commit, and that’s something that you can’t change. People don’t change unless they want to change, and even then, more often than not the changes they make aren’t changes to their fundamental self. A tiger can’t change his stripes, but they can certainly have them shaved off to hide them. Two, she’s been in a really, really rough relationship recently and is still hurting over it. In which case, she’s being non-committal for all the wrong reasons and will end up hurting herself as well as everyone around her. Three, she just isn’t ready for a relationship. Perhaps she’s even been a serial monogamous person and is enjoying her time without a relationship. Perhaps she feels like she’s just not mentally mature enough for a relationship (since KnoC does dictate a young person, though not as young as pages).
Very interesting take - I'd never have come to the conclusion that KoC is a self control card but judging from her behaviour, it is a show of self control of not showing her emotions and I originally thought that was displayed through King of Swords.
I actually never have, either. I was struggling to figure out how to alternatively interpret this for you, so I pulled up one of my LWB’s and there it was, and it made a lot of sense. So I think both of them are cards of self-control, but in different ways, and I think it’s the same for all of the kings, honestly. The KoC is exercising self-control over showing emotions (cups). The KoS is exercising self-control over showing thoughts (swords), a penny for your thoughts being denied and all that jazz. The KoP would be self-control over the physical self or money (depending on the kind of reading). The KoW would be showing self-control over the mind.
Actually, both of us never came close to openly admitting our emotions. Perhaps an amount of flirting on her end and an amount of deep caring attitude coming from me, that's about it. I guessed she wants to be left alone after her sudden clam shell behaviour & the cards seem to indicate that. So I will leave it.
I would say that’s a good idea. Remember, not all of our desires are verbally expressed, so it’s good that you’re paying attention to how she’s acting. Remember, the KoP would be the ultimate self-control over the body (and actions that go with it), so the QoP would likely touch on the same capability. Perhaps not to the same extent and ability of the KoP, but certainly more than the KnoP or the PoP.
I like your narration of the sun and dark room. I suppose there is a lot at stake given we are working in the same company so there is a good possibility that she opts to remain as friends in order to avoid any potential awkwardness in the future.
Thank you! It came to me while I was typing and thought it was too good to not include lol. That is definitely a possibility. I would also suggest checking company policy and seeing if it says anything about dating within the office. Some employers say that dating in the office is verbotem. Others are like “eh, who cares? Sleep with whomever you want! Just not the boss.” Since you work together, you could also be seen as the highlight (heh heh. Puns) of her day in the office. Have to two of you had any significant amount of interaction while at the office, or has it always been after?
Do you mean Pentacles being the 4th and last in the suit of minor arcana and therefore leading to a transformation next stage? Sorry but I'm not sure I understood this correctly, would you be able to elaborate further?
I definitely can! I meant more along the lines of like…so the QoP (position four in the spread) is her right now and the KoP is her 6-8 weeks from now. So like by the time 6-8 weeks has happened, she won’t have just changed her mind, she’ll have made a complete transformation to the next “stage” of who she needs to be to be happy in her life. However, when tying it into the cycle you mentioned prior, then yes, this could be the last step before she undergoes and complete and radical transformation as she heads back to the suit of wands, unless that’s where she started, in which case she’d probably be done with her cycle on this matter and ready to start the cycle on the next matter in her life.
So what we're saying here is that she will reach an answer within herself by then and take necessary actions, be it active or passive. I'm of 2 minds on this. While I think she prefers initiative, I also think there is enough initiative shown and passivity on her end for the last couple of months so if she ultimately decides what she wants, she should take an action. But again, I'm speculating logically, not intuitively.
I would say she’ll hopefully reach a decision by then. Remember, the Tarot as a divination tool may only show a possible future (otherwise, I would have been in a relationship with someone a couple years ago with long red hair and brown eyes. I can definitely say that wasn’t the case lol), so she may possibly reach A decision by then, though it may even be a decision of “I need to think about this more”. I think in this case, because she’s such a logical person, speculating logically may be the best idea. So I would say by that time, based on her past behaviors, she may end up making the first move. If she’s ready to do so.
She came across as being intuitive so maybe you're right, she might have sensed something through my caring attitude towards her. Other than that, I show no romantic feelings or chatter in that manner. So I will just keep it in this manner and take things as they come.
Probably a good idea, though do remember that not everything is revealed verbally. It’s like the great sea witch once said, “Don’t underestimate the power of body language” lol. Some people are very good at even picking up minor movements. I will leave that for you to decide, though, whether she seems to be the right kind of observant to have noticed any subtle body language you may have thrown her way.
Thank you for your interpretations! It's very very helpful! I'll share the progress when I see one
You’re very welcome, and thank you! This has been just as much a learning experience for me with the cards, and I definitely appreciate that!
And please do! Here’s to hoping something happens before 6-8 weeks that’s good, but if not then at least we have a time frame we can wait for and expect to hear back in.