Hi Barbaras,
Glad to hear that my post was some help. Very glad to hear things might be leveling out for the time being : ) You must feel stuck between wanting to just escape for a bit and worrying that if you do tuck away from home for any time--even for tea at a bookstore--you'd be hoping all would be going on well at home. It seems like anytime you have two personalities in a house that have their own things to deal with *and* might know all of each others buttons and how and when to push them, well, sometimes it just feels combustable.
Being a Cancer must be esp. hard for someone with such great ups and downs. Cancers, having such keen memories and being both so sensitive and prone to brooding, would find it hard to get much distance from revisiting the darker spots of their lives in vivid detail and constantly worrying that dark spots could be just around the corner at any moment--hence the constant questioning. When everything seems so random, esp. when there might be a medical component, it must be tough to choose the best course for the future--even the immediate future or just the littlest decisions. It would be a frustrating struggle (for you both!) to be always wondering...how can he avoid the dark spots from happening again? How long will happiness last this time? When can he finally have the warm comfort of feeling neither high nor low nor numb? Why won't this all just go away for good?--trying to predict the frightening and unpredictable : ) Chronic health conditions that take so many life-long adjustments can feel very frustrating--he might feel like he never seems to gain much ground, despite every episode/change he makes. It's esp. hard when here's a sign that values emotional security so much. Harder still when *you're* trying to be the balance in the home : )
You might want to check out your hubby's, your daughter's and your own Venus and Moon (what houses they fall in,) too, to check for what might make each of you happiest and which could be everybody's most vulnerable spots. Sometimes you can gain perspective into how to negotiate the emotional minefields that way
Hope this helps--your sense of humor will be your greatest respite, but whenever you can, take a little time for yourself, however you can, to keep your energy high enough for your own health and happiness, too.
Take Care! : )