Here is another 12 step list which I think would be a terrific compliment to this spread. Plus, I think this list could be useful for just about anyone in a variety of situations.
The Proactive Twelve Steps
1. I realize I'm stuck. It makes no sense to keep trying to solve my problems with "solutions" that aren't working.
2. I'm willing to let go of my usual ways, in the hope that this will help me see things from a broader perspective.
3. I shift my focus, from being fixated on my problems, to seeking a sense of wholeness and contentment in my life.
4. I honestly look at the effects of my actions on others and myself.
5. I take responsibility for my actions.
6. I see that my knee-jerk reactions have to do with being in the grip of more or less conscious fears.
7. I strive to find my motivation in a deeper sense of who I really am, rather than fear and defensiveness.
8. I stop blaming and feeling blamed, with a willingness to heal the wounds.
9. I swallow my pride, and sincerely apologize to people I've hurt, except when it would be counterproductive.
10. I live mindfully, paying attention to the motives and effects of my actions.
11. I stay tuned inside, in touch with a broader sense of who I really am, and a deeper sense of what I really want.
12. As I feel better about myself, I reach out to others who feel stuck.
http://www.proactive-coach.com/12steps/list.htm
UPDATE: This site was moved to a new url and has modified its steps slightly. It can be found at
http://proactivechange.com/12steps/list.htm
Step 1:
I get it: What I’ve been doing is self-destructive. I need to change.
Step 2:
I see the big picture: The way to stop relapsing into self-destructive behaviors is to build a healthier sense of self.
Step 3:
I have an action plan: From now on, I am squarely facing everything that is in the way of feeling really satisfied with my life.
Step 4:
I honestly look at the effects of my actions on others and myself.
Step 5:
I take responsibility for my actions.
Step 6:
I see that my knee-jerk reactions have to do with being in the grip of more or less conscious fears.
Step 7:
I strive to find my motivation in a deeper sense of who I
really am, rather than fear and defensiveness.
Step 8:
I stop blaming and feeling blamed, with a willingness to heal the wounds.
Step 9:
I swallow my pride, and sincerely apologize to people I've hurt, except when this would be counterproductive.
Step 10:
I live mindfully, paying attention to the motives and effects of my actions.
Step 11:
I stay in touch with a broader sense of who I really am, and a deeper sense of what I really want.
Step 12:
A growing sense of wholeness and contentment motivates me to keep at it, and to share this process with others who are struggling.
