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Bit of a rant – just wanted to share something that happened to me today to get it off my chest!
I work at a small coffee shop, and when it’s quiet I can sit down at a table and read a book, or spend some time with my cards. Today I was reading for one of the girls that I work with. We got busy, and I left my cards on the table while we worked. My friend’s mother, who also reads tarot, came in and immediately picked up my deck and began to shuffle. I’m not too precious about people touching my cards and I wouldn’t have minded so much had she not then proceeded to tell me that I could only use decks that were given to me by someone else, criticise the lack of reversals in my deck and tell me that the only way to shuffle them was to splay them all out on the table and mix them together. I tried to be reasonable and said that from everything I’ve been reading about Tarot, there’s no one single way to approach it, and the approach you take depends on your own personal beliefs and superstitions; but she wouldn’t hear a word of it, insisting that hers was the only way and I was wrong.
She laid out a spread and said that she “could almost see what the cards meant just by looking at them”, admitting that she hadn’t read for a year or so. It was my Druidcraft, and when I said that the images were strongly Rider-Waite based she just looked at me with a blank expression. I offered some suggestions for what the cards could mean, but she just ignored me and looked them up in the LWB. I’m by no means trying to claim that I’m an experienced reader and have all the answers myself, and this may sound equally as arrogant of me but it seemed to me that she had a fairly naïve understanding of the tarot, and as overtly self-assured and confident as she seemed, had things still to learn that I could have shared with her – and I would have liked to see what she had to share if she’d been less close minded.
I was so disappointed and even a little bit offended by her attitude – she imposed herself upon my cards without asking (a woman who didn’t even know my name!), and then proceeded to discount my knowledge and opinions with the understanding that hers were superior. The Tarot community in my city seems virtually non-existent, and as she is the only other person I’ve met who reads tarot I would have liked to have had an insightful discussion with her about it. I guess I’m so used to the community on AT being so supportive and open-minded, I’d hoped to meet other tarot readers as open to discussion and the ideas of others.
I work at a small coffee shop, and when it’s quiet I can sit down at a table and read a book, or spend some time with my cards. Today I was reading for one of the girls that I work with. We got busy, and I left my cards on the table while we worked. My friend’s mother, who also reads tarot, came in and immediately picked up my deck and began to shuffle. I’m not too precious about people touching my cards and I wouldn’t have minded so much had she not then proceeded to tell me that I could only use decks that were given to me by someone else, criticise the lack of reversals in my deck and tell me that the only way to shuffle them was to splay them all out on the table and mix them together. I tried to be reasonable and said that from everything I’ve been reading about Tarot, there’s no one single way to approach it, and the approach you take depends on your own personal beliefs and superstitions; but she wouldn’t hear a word of it, insisting that hers was the only way and I was wrong.
She laid out a spread and said that she “could almost see what the cards meant just by looking at them”, admitting that she hadn’t read for a year or so. It was my Druidcraft, and when I said that the images were strongly Rider-Waite based she just looked at me with a blank expression. I offered some suggestions for what the cards could mean, but she just ignored me and looked them up in the LWB. I’m by no means trying to claim that I’m an experienced reader and have all the answers myself, and this may sound equally as arrogant of me but it seemed to me that she had a fairly naïve understanding of the tarot, and as overtly self-assured and confident as she seemed, had things still to learn that I could have shared with her – and I would have liked to see what she had to share if she’d been less close minded.
I was so disappointed and even a little bit offended by her attitude – she imposed herself upon my cards without asking (a woman who didn’t even know my name!), and then proceeded to discount my knowledge and opinions with the understanding that hers were superior. The Tarot community in my city seems virtually non-existent, and as she is the only other person I’ve met who reads tarot I would have liked to have had an insightful discussion with her about it. I guess I’m so used to the community on AT being so supportive and open-minded, I’d hoped to meet other tarot readers as open to discussion and the ideas of others.