Thank you all for your replies! It was so nice to wake up this morning and read them
but the other one...
well he's a case , he is supposedly a gipsy ( he wasnt born or knows any gipsy , but some girl who suposedly is a gipsy psychic told him he probably had gipsy blood or soemthinsg , they're both 16 of course) and so he thinks you have to be a gipsy psychic to learn or use tarot , that it has to be a gift , and so on , he thinks I am probably magical too because I've read for him and he aproved my reading haha , and he's soooooo closed minded about magic , he knows crap about it , he thinks it is lkike harry potter , her mom does witchcraft but doenst want him to, and so he thinks he's magical but her evi mother binded him , but he doesnt study or reads about it at all , no books no nothing , he just asks me about it , wants me to teach him , but he wants me to teach me only what he THINKS is right D: hjaha its horribleeee!! DX god he is also a slut and tried to seduce me when I told him I wanst goinna teach him ._. hahaha
Oh my Minotauro! That's quite a story haha! The boy reminds me of a girl I used to know, when we were quite young (maybe 13?) and first discovered tarot and decided we were going to be witches
She had all these rules about how you had to purify your deck every day and had to sleep with it under your pillow for three nights before you could use it, and couldn't buy your own... and because she seemed so much more adamant and knowledgeable I took her word as gospel and waited for my second deck to be given to me, which didn't happen until I was 18 - all the while looking forlornly at scans on AT! I find it funny now that she has all but forgotten about that little sojourn in our lives, so maybe this is just a phase this boy is going through while he figures out himself and what tarot means to him. He's only young still, and I'm sure we've all had those awkward teenage years!
Totally agree with this. It's so true. And also, it is a gentle reminder of just how deep our love for tarot goes. See how it stirs us up! These aren't just cards, they go very deeply within us and make us very protective of what they bring to our lives, they are very tied up with our sensitivity and our sense of self. So much so that an encounter like this make us feel invaded and sullied.
I would feel exactly the same.
Invaded is definitely the right word, Le Fanu! As she was shuffling my cards all I could think was that the second she put them down I was going to take them and reorder them and maybe even cleanse them - something I haven't done for a long long time! - but this seemed like a more than apt time for it! And I think as much as it is an invasion of our sense of self, it's also a criticism of our spiritual expression - as bad perhaps as criticising the way someone might express their religion.
I do not believe she (the friend's mother) is a good reader, from all you have said. Her pride seems to be greater than her skill. Or maybe she is feeling insecure about her skills and your talking like you knew more than she did made her feel go into denial of your skills You are a better reader and it shows. Your skills are clearly greater than hers.
Thankfully you knew enough about Tarot to know that at the time. People who talk in absolutes like she did and sound so sure of themselves can cause some real harm to newbie readers. The only other reader I knew when I started out insisted that you can only read with one deck for life. She was so sure about it that I gave away my second deck and it took me forever to get another. It stilted things for me a bit.
These people can harm people's progress at times if the person does not know any better.
And yes it was quite rude, to pick up YOUR deck and then proceed to insult your skills with your own deck that you were kind enough to let her use. It really was rude. (sigh) And all of what she was insisting on seems wrong. And if she had to look in the LWB, she does not know all that much about Tarot. And if she is not willing to accept any meaning that is not in there (and LWBs by their size are very abridged meaningwise) or any new method,she will never improve.
Sad for her, and sad that she may negatively influence others. You knew enough to know that what she was saying was not true. Others who are newer to it may not.
Babs
Thank you for your kind words Babs, it means a lot
I did find it a little laughable that she seemed so sure that she had all the answers and yet still needed to refer to the LWB for meanings, but I was trying not to judge because we all have to start at the beginning – but she needs to understand there’s no shame in being a beginner, and no need to feel defensive about it!
But the good thing that came out of it was that it gave me a chance to talk to her daughter about tarot and dispel some of those myths – she seems really keen to learn so I’m giving her one of my old decks next week and when work’s quiet I can help her learn
I truly understand how you felt and why. That being said I am sure there are a number of AT members in your city that you could maybe meet with to discuss Tarot in person. We're all over the world and a huge community.
I think there is a tarot meet up once a month in a café not far from where I live that I saw advertised on AT a while back, but I’ve always been working (and a little shy!
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