For me it is a kind of damned if you do, damned if you don't situation - or gloried if you do, gloried if you don't situation, depending on your perspective. Change is inevitable. We can both hope that it is the change that we want and fear that it won't. Whatever happens, we ride that wheel ... that is something that we can either do with grace - recognising that cycles are a condition of life and we may as well just flow with them, or we can invest ourselves mentally and emotionally in the outcomes through hope and fear, regardless of the inevitability of change.
Helping the sitter to see the cycles of life, and the inevitability of change, and to encourage them to expand their perspective and thus ride that great Ferris wheel of life with a sense of adventure rather than fear, can be difficult, but exceedingly helpful. Mind you, ultimately, everyone of us is riding our own wheel and will do it within the context of our own time and need and purposes.
mythos