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I know you said you didn't want to discuss your point of view, but I would like to say that I agree with everything that you posted above.
I know you said you didn't want to discuss your point of view, but I would like to say that I agree with everything that you posted above.
That is absolutely not going to happen. If you post here, then you must recognize that this is a public forum and everything you post is indeed public. If this makes you unhappy do not post here. Or on any public forum.
Thank you for saying that. And to G6 - as I said earlier - only the other day I wanted to find a post Lee had made about the Marteau deck - and yes if I had known when I started looking that that was the specific TdM I could have found it from thread titles - but I only remembered it was about a TdM. It I hadn't been able to search his posts I would have been decidedly peeved.That is absolutely not going to happen. If you post here, then you must recognize that this is a public forum and everything you post is indeed public. If this makes you unhappy do not post here. Or on any public forum.
I debated on whether or not to reply to this because I feel this whole thread is a powder keg, and why bother especially after the original poster decided she no longer wants to participate... which in itself is a little frustrating. I typically avoid hot topic threads out of not wanting to butt heads but since there are many others who are coming out of their shells to give their opinion, I will as well since the quote above from Bonny really struck a nerve as a reader.
Let me just preface this by saying I am only speaking for myself and from my experiences. I don't wish to debate or go back and forth as some forum members enjoy. I'm simply adding my opinion. Funny this popped up the same night I began considering offering free readings here, I think I'll take it as a sign to wait a little longer to decide on if I'd like to because frankly being told the above put a sour taste in my mouth for sure.
If you post it on the internet, it is public and therefore able to be read by others. This is Internet Usage 101. If someone does not want their business known to others, it's best they don't post it on public forums especially ones like AT where post history can be read. If you truly want a private session it's best to get a one on one with a reader either through an online reading OR better yet by visiting one face to face. This may cost you money, but think of it as paying for your privacy.
A reader has every right to turn someone down for whatever reason they wish. If they feel the need to go through someone's post history to make sure they aren't being taken advantage of by someone who only wishes to ask the same question to different people until they receive the answer they wish, then that is their right. It isn't stalking, it's the reader defending their boundaries and ensuring they aren't crossed. Some of us are sick of being treated like a fortune cookie. We are human beings who take time and energy to give a reading, and we deserve the right to turn down someone if we do not wish to give a reading, especially if that reading is free.
It is the sitter who is being gifted, not the reader. We may come here for practice or in my case we may read for free as a way of giving back to the community but that does not mean we should bow down to the sitter and cave to giving them whatever they wish in a reading. If this is the attitude someone takes towards their reader, they are certainly not welcome to a reading from me. Neither the reader or sitter is better and often times, especially in the case of readers who are not total newbies, the sitter is gaining more from the experience than the reader. That doesn't mean the reader should take a "holier than thou" attitude nor should they turn down a sitter in a rude way, but there should be some awareness and appreciation to what a reader gives to their sitter when they do a reading.
I'm sorry if someone turned you down rudely Bonny. I do not know the situation details or what they said, but they had every right to say no if they didn't feel like reading for a situation that was already read for whether you like it or not.
What she saidI know you said you didn't want to discuss your point of view, but I would like to say that I agree with everything that you posted above.
I do not know the situation details or what they said, but they had every right to say no if they didn't feel like reading for a situation that was already read for whether you like it or not.
99% of the questions posted actually are THE GIFT to the Reader. It is not the other way around!
Seriously, Readers need to treat a Sitter with gratitude, because the Sitter is risking a LOT more by the exchange than the Reader is.