queenmil
Is there anything you can do right after a loved one pastaway ?
I really would avoid trying to contact someone right after passing--unless the circumstances were odd or extreme, like someone in a long term coma who no one got to talk to before they passed, or someone who died in some distant place and was never found.queenmil said:Is there anything you can do right after a loved one pastaway ?
queenmil said:Is there anything you can do right after a loved one pastaway ?
Be kind to yourself. Lean on friends and family and let them lean on you. Cry. Remember the good times and laugh. Learn to recognize the stages of grief. Know that everyone adjusts at their own pace. Eat a piece of chocolate. Light a candle for the one who has passed. Write a letter to that individual and then take it outside and burn it so the smoke can rise with your message. Use this time to learn more about yourself. Try to identify that feeling in your chest and explore the way it extends to every part of your body. Take a walk in nature. Watch a sunrise or sunset. Pray. Tell everyone who is still here just how much you love them. Wake up each morning and live life to its fullest.queenmil said:Is there anything you can do right after a loved one pastaway ?
Thirteen said:I really would avoid trying to contact someone right after passing--unless the circumstances were odd or extreme, like someone in a long term coma who no one got to talk to before they passed, or someone who died in some distant place and was never found.
People need time to deal with their shock and their grief, to mourn. This is not the time to say to say or do anything other than tell them, "I'm very sorry for your loss." Likewise, from what certain psychics have told me, the dead as well need time to make their transition. It's beyond cruel to try and keep them pinned to life, rather than letting them find their new place in the spirit world
There will be time enough later to have such spiritual conversations if the loved ones really want and need it. But doing it right after would be, IMHO, brutally insensitive and wrong. This is not a time to hold on. It's a time to let go, to deal with change, the turning of the wheel. If you try to hold on, neither side will ever be able to move on. And that would be very wrong.