You can definitely be happy without medication. I have never had medication for that purpose.
The way I learnt it, ALL feelings that we have are the direct result of the thoughts we had right before them. We can learn more and more to choose and embrace the kinds of thoughts that make us happy and to choose to not have or turn off the ones that don't.
Part of it for me is my belief in the Divine. I do believe we are part of something much greater, and that there are no coincidences and that we are being guided at all times towards the best outcome. Sometimes we try to fight that, but it he don't and go with the flow we get there and have faith in life, we get there much faster.
Also a gratitude log helps, writing down 10 of so things you are grateful for in your life, either before bed or first thing in the morning. That helps to keep your focus on that, on the warn happy things. It really is just a matter of the thoughts you choose to have.And you can get better and better at choosing the ones that make you happy, And challenging the ones that don't. You get to see over time that the ones that make you happy are much closer to the truth of the matter than the ones that don't, if you really look openly and honestlyi at it. And just knowing that changes a lot.
Everything will always ultimately be ok. No uncomfortable thing in life can last forever. Life is movement and change. And what we can't change we can change how we look at it and see the good side. Since nothing is all bad, there is a good side to anything. And your lives are guided to work out in the best ways for us, in my belief system. Nothing can happen to us that is ultimately not in our best interest. This is not always easy to see at the time, but years later we can look back and see why it was for the best.
Yes you are right, Medication cannot bring you a boyfriend, and it cannot bring you money. But the point of happiness is not to acquire things that you think you want. The point of it, imo, is to learn that you don't need these things to be happy, To accept that you don;t have then or need them to be happy and that you love your life just as it is.
Money does NOT bring happiness, which is why you see so many depressed movie stars, They could likely have any bf they chose and still they are not happy. Happiness comes from the inside of you, It is not the result of what you have or what you don't. Happiness is a state of mind, not a reaction to what you have. No one can create yoru state of mind but you. You HAVE that power to make your state of mind into whatever you want. You just have put in a bit of work.
Sorry but that almost made me laugh how you tell your Dad that you are not happy with something and he tells you to get over it or to let it go. Of course that is not helpful. If you knew how to do that you would have already. The reason it made me laugh is that it reminds me of my mother. In all the years I was growing up living with her, and after, I never saw her have a common cold. Never a cold of a flu ever. I had never seen anyone else not have one. I kept asking her HOW she was able todo that. And she would say that "I don't get colds because
I don't go for that! I never knew what to make of that, but it was so completley not useful it made me laugh. As if all you have to is "not go for" being ill and you never will be again.
This is not medical advice of course. And I have never had pills to make me happier, but I have been on tranquillzers at a number of different times in my life. And that also is medication to change your moods. And I found they did not help me as much as learning to change my thoughts.
It was my thoughts that were making me stressed, the thoughts that I alone was choosing. And no matter how much medication I had, it did not change my thoughts adn if I chose scary thoughts I was going to get nervous. All the medication did was make me a bit into a zombie, My thoughts came slower, but when they can they came in the same form and I stressed myeslf with them.
I am much better with that now. And yes, I truly believe you can learn to change the way you are thinking, and that changes all the rest,. When you choose better more accurate thoughts, you become calmer and calmer and happier and happier. And yes, the thoughts that we think that make us unhappy are next to never true. I have it on very good authority, that those kinds of thoughts are always untrue, distorted in some way. When we are thinking that way, we are not seeing clearly or seeing things as they actually are. That and that the worst thing we can imagine almost NEVER happens.
For what its worth, what has worked best for me with the stress (Ive had some hard experiences in my life too and 2 nervous breakdowns) is cogitive therapy. That was the one thing that is curing me. I tried a number of things first that did not make a dent in it really. It does work well for depression too.
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