Leandra88
Thanks so much for this read, and for all of this interesting information about dreams and twins.
This is an interesting theory. I can certainly relate to feeling guilt and pain at a missed opportunity. Even though I have decided to move on from G, I do view it as a missed opportunity as I did feel that we were very compatible in a lot of ways. I suppose on some level I do feel guilty about walking away from him, even though he is the one who is being stubborn and resistant. So I get what you are saying about me not being able to live my own life if I am trying to "live with him" so to speak.
Interesting, this could also be true. Perhaps my dream was the unfulfilled desire of not being able to be with him in the real world. The "what could have been".
Yes, we are very alike in a lot of ways. I used to feel like in some ways we were the same person.
Yes, I do miss the safety and security I felt in our relationship and feeling understood. It is also true that G and I are different. Even though we are so alike in many ways, there are some fundamental differences between the two. One major one that resulted in our breakup is that I have a fighter personality where I will fight to the death for what I want/care about. He has a more avoidant personality and will crawl back to where he is in his comfort zone and his routine.
This is so fascinating to me. As I mentioned above, we had a weird juxtaposition where we are so much alike in some ways, and then very very different in other ways. So I think there was a balance of being different enough to even each other out. I personally think that unity comes from both similar and different materials. I think there needs to be enough similarities to bring two people together at a fundamental level, but there should always be differences so that each person can learn from the other and balance each other out. Maybe you're right and our similarities outshone our differences, and we were too similar souls to work in a relationship.
I love when you say "The missed life is not finding your opposite person - the one who is not the same person as you." That really intrigues me. I am hopeful that I will find such a person in the future, and then truly realize why G and I would never work quite the same.
Thanks again for the read, this gives me a lot of food for thought!
Hi Leandra, this is beyond the scope of 'simple'.
Freud said, that the birth of twins in dreams symbolises the missed opportunities which cause feelings of guilt and pain. The twins symbolise the desire for exchange and communication with others.
You may feel guilty towards G because you want to be "twins" with him, to be one soul in two bodies. At the same time you may feel guilty for you cannot be G's twin for whatever reason, or he cannot be your twin.
In order to live with him you cannot live your own life.
This is an interesting theory. I can certainly relate to feeling guilt and pain at a missed opportunity. Even though I have decided to move on from G, I do view it as a missed opportunity as I did feel that we were very compatible in a lot of ways. I suppose on some level I do feel guilty about walking away from him, even though he is the one who is being stubborn and resistant. So I get what you are saying about me not being able to live my own life if I am trying to "live with him" so to speak.
I think, each dream is the fulfillment of the wish. Which wish is fulfilled by giving birth to twins? You want to be twins with G, but it's impossible in reality so you need to dream it in order to have your wish fulfilled.
Interesting, this could also be true. Perhaps my dream was the unfulfilled desire of not being able to be with him in the real world. The "what could have been".
I'm asking my cards why you want to be twins with him.
Friend & House
Having a twin-relationship is sharing the same soul, so G would be your soulmate, and you were his. You are like him, he is like you. Being twins takes away the difference between you both.
Yes, we are very alike in a lot of ways. I used to feel like in some ways we were the same person.
Because there is something separating you, you want to move on from G. What you miss is the feeling of security and safety that comes from intuitive understanding. You wish to be known without having to explain yourself all the time. You want to understand him, and vice versa.
You miss the feeling of care, empathy and sensitive behaviour towards you. But your dream says: you give birth to twins because G and you aren't twins. You are two different persons.
Yes, I do miss the safety and security I felt in our relationship and feeling understood. It is also true that G and I are different. Even though we are so alike in many ways, there are some fundamental differences between the two. One major one that resulted in our breakup is that I have a fighter personality where I will fight to the death for what I want/care about. He has a more avoidant personality and will crawl back to where he is in his comfort zone and his routine.
Twins may be confused because they look similar. The difference between the other one and yourself would be denied by being a twin. You want to move on because either you or G refuse to accept that the other one is not your twin. But love is... opposites attracted.
The twins from your dream may also say: you two are so much akin that you cannot love the other one.
The missed life is not finding your opposite person - the one who is not the same person as you.
The twin is either a unity that is made from similar or different material. You have to decide whether unity stems from similarity, or from difference. I think, unity comes from difference.
Like thesis - antithesis - synthesis.
This is so fascinating to me. As I mentioned above, we had a weird juxtaposition where we are so much alike in some ways, and then very very different in other ways. So I think there was a balance of being different enough to even each other out. I personally think that unity comes from both similar and different materials. I think there needs to be enough similarities to bring two people together at a fundamental level, but there should always be differences so that each person can learn from the other and balance each other out. Maybe you're right and our similarities outshone our differences, and we were too similar souls to work in a relationship.
I love when you say "The missed life is not finding your opposite person - the one who is not the same person as you." That really intrigues me. I am hopeful that I will find such a person in the future, and then truly realize why G and I would never work quite the same.
Thanks again for the read, this gives me a lot of food for thought!