And how did you analyze the planets I don't understand where you got this information from?
The process is known as Horary Astrology. It is intended to be used for answering questions, in a similar way to Tarot, though it predates Tarot by four or five hundred years.
You are known as the querent - the person who asks the question (your post in the thread). As the Astrologer, I cast a chart, when I'm certain that I understand your question. That chart is attached to my Answer to the question.
In the chart, you are invariably given the Ascendant, because you asked the question and it's relevant to you personally. In this case the Ascendant was in Cancer. One of the planets acts as a significator for you. This is again invariably the ruler of the Ascendant - in this case that is the Moon, which rules Cancer. There are cases where a different planet is chose but they are rare, and it is usually done if there are problems using the Ascendant ruler.
Your question has a subject. In this case it's the relationship with the older guy and where it's going. The relationship, or to be more precise, him, is known as the questited. The thing or person asked about. The quesited also has a significator. That significator is invariably the ruler of the house which is concerned with the affairs of the quesited. In this case the 'affairs' are a relationship, or more specifically a long term relationship. In Astrology that would be a Seventh House matter, the seventh being the house concerned with partner/spouse/other specific individuals and your relationship to them.
Blood or family relationships are dealt with through other houses - for example your father is fourth house, your mother tenth house and your siblings third house. Your children (if any) would be fifth house.
The seventh house is the house directly opposite the first. So with the Ascendant in Cancer, the cusp of the seventh (known as the Descendant) is in Capricorn. That allows me to identify a significator for him, Saturn the ruler of Capricorn.
The rest is derived from:
The essential dignities of the two significators That is their zodiacal placement by Sign, or part of a sign, and which Triplcity they are in - Fire, Air, Earth, Water.
The placement of the significators in the chart, by house
Any aspects forming between the significators, or other relationships between them that will indicate that the relationship will happen or that it won't happen.
In this case, your significator, the Moon. is in two of the dignities of Saturn, it's sign (Aquarius) and it's triplicity (Air). Interpretation - you really like this guy.
But his significator, Saturn, is in none of the dignities of the Moon. Interpretation - he doesn't have the same feelings for you.
Your significator is in the eighth house - an 'idle' house, there's not much you can do to influence the situation - he is likely to take the lead.
His significator is in the sixth house - also an idle house. He's not going to be very active in getting something going.
There's no aspect forming between Saturn and the Moon. Indeed one had formed and is now separating. You are now beginning to drift apart from him, though it's early days. Conclusion - A long term relationship is unlikely at the moment.
There are indicators that he is more interested in a short term 'fling' - the very close aspect between Moon and Mars, which rules the fifth house. That covers fun, children and casual sex or short term romances.
Why do you keep getting the Lovers? One of its original meanings is
choice. You have to chose between two alternatives. From the chart I'd say your choice is having a short term fling with him, with no promise it will lead anywhere or seeing if the situation changes at some point in the future.
There's nothing wrong with choosing the short term fling. You might well enjoy it. However you need to know that the choice may very well not lead to a long term relationship and indeed there's a piece of small evidence that suggests he's in it for his own personal gain. As long as you realise that no long term relationship is promised, you are free to choose the short term romance. If you go into this with your eyes open, you might gain something positive but if you will only be content with a long term relationship, then you go into a short term fling with the probability of a broken heart at the end of it.
Whichever you decide, the choice is yours and yours alone.