misfitknits
great topic, metafizzypop. i would like to start by saying that i think the scenario you have brought up is probably the reason that all tarot card MEANINGS now have a pretty positive slant to them. for instance: death doesn't mean you are going to die, it means you are going to be reborn. or 5 of pents: you are going to feel like you have nothing, and you may, in fact, lose everything, but there is still hope. none of them are just: this is a terrible situation. period.
i understand WHY this has happened, and why tarot card meanings have transformed over many years. but sometimes, bad things happen. shit happens. and you have to pick yourself up and deal with it. delving into that any further would completely hijack this thread, but my point is that sometimes you just have to face the facts, and some people *sitters* are not ready to hear or DO that.
i agree with rota. especially if you are reading for people with whom you have a relationship (friend, family member) because you that would be a really silly way to end a relationship *not on your part, on theirs, but it will still come back on you*.
so before you read for someone ask them are they prepared for ANY answer. not only good answers come from tarot. also, for friends and family members, ask them if, regardless of what the tarot says, are they going to hold you responsible for the outcome. if they show you that absolutely CAN NOT do this, then i would politely tell them you can't read for them anymore, because you don't want to ruin your relationship.
but this is true of any reading, just as you have pointed out. therefore, i would tell ANY sitter that if they are not prepared for an honest answer, they should wait to do a reading.
of course, i agree with all the other tips in this thread, and there are some great ones!! but i think this should really be the first thing you bring up when ANYONE asks for a reading. and then, you take the suggestions given here, and utilize them when they are needed.
i understand WHY this has happened, and why tarot card meanings have transformed over many years. but sometimes, bad things happen. shit happens. and you have to pick yourself up and deal with it. delving into that any further would completely hijack this thread, but my point is that sometimes you just have to face the facts, and some people *sitters* are not ready to hear or DO that.
i agree with rota. especially if you are reading for people with whom you have a relationship (friend, family member) because you that would be a really silly way to end a relationship *not on your part, on theirs, but it will still come back on you*.
so before you read for someone ask them are they prepared for ANY answer. not only good answers come from tarot. also, for friends and family members, ask them if, regardless of what the tarot says, are they going to hold you responsible for the outcome. if they show you that absolutely CAN NOT do this, then i would politely tell them you can't read for them anymore, because you don't want to ruin your relationship.
but this is true of any reading, just as you have pointed out. therefore, i would tell ANY sitter that if they are not prepared for an honest answer, they should wait to do a reading.
of course, i agree with all the other tips in this thread, and there are some great ones!! but i think this should really be the first thing you bring up when ANYONE asks for a reading. and then, you take the suggestions given here, and utilize them when they are needed.