Caristia, I am so sorry for your loss. I'm sure this is a most difficult time for you, and I wish you peace and healing.
I don't know if this will be helpful to you, but my best friend lost her mother when we were both 22 (a long time ago now
). My friend was so angry and sad for so long, and she wanted her mom to try and connect with her, but she never felt her near. I don't think this meant that she wasn't. I just think my friend was so very sad and wasn't in a place to be aware at that time. Several years later, she kept mentioning that she noticed repeated number every time she looked at a clock or calendar etc... whenever she happened to look at a clock, it was always 11 something. For instance, it was always 10:11 or 2:11. It got to the point that this was so frequent that she began to question it. Anyway, eventually she learned more about the number 11 and it's significance. I'm sorry I'm not good with numerology, but I recall that she felt there was a connection to her mom with this. Later a reading was done (again with my friend CelticNoodle), where my friend's mom came through and revealed that it was her making herself known with the recurring 11's.
Many other things were revealed that made it clear that her mom was watching over her. I won't repeat them here because they were of a personal nature. No, she's not watching every minute, and she doesn't care about the private things that happen in my friend's life. She just knew that my friend was suffering and wanted to reassure her that everything was fine.
I was very close with this woman as well. She was like a surrogate mother to me. In life she was actively involved in an adoption agency. Both my friend and her sister were adopted as well. After many years of infertility, my husband and I decided we would adopt a baby. It was a very long process and was not easy. We faced many roadblocks, but in the end, we were finally blessed with our amazing son. A couple of years ago, I woke up thinking about my friend's mother. I had dreamt about her and we were talking, but I couldn't remember what the conversation was about. While I was sitting in my bed, looking into my bathroom, a very distinct and kind voice said in my head, "she helped you get Ryan." (Ryan is my son). I can assure you, it wasn't my voice or myself telling me this. I don't even remember being overly emotional or reactive to this. It was very calm and comforting, and the moment I heard the voice, it all made perfect sense to me. Adoption is what she did in life and how she got her two children. It just felt like I already knew she had helped me, but I wasn't aware of it, if that makes sense.
Anyway, I dream of her often now. If I am upset or feeling down and I dream about her, almost always now, her daughter (my best friend), will call me in the morning. She always says that she just felt she needed to call me. We live in different states now and don't get to talk very often, but this seems to happen often when I'm unhappy about something. We both think that her mom nudges one of us to call each other.
I'm sorry this is so long and I'm going on a bit. I guess what I'm trying to say is that, your husband may very well be trying to connect, but it takes time for us to understand the subtle ways they may choose. It certainly appeared that it wasn't until my friend had healed a bit that she was able to recognize the signals her mom was sending.
Similar things happened after my step brother passed away. When he came through, he talked about a couple of events that occurred since his passing that he was present for, but no one was aware. He mentioned a balloon celebration that the family had on the first year anniversary of his death. Everyone wrote him messages on balloons and released them into the air. He said he was there and really liked it, but of course, no one who was there felt him at the time.
You are going through a very hard time. I don't want to get berated for saying this, but I'm sure he is near you and caring for you. I doubt he's concerned with the mundane everyday things going on, but I'm sure he wants you to know he's okay. I'm not a medium, and I don't have any psychic abilities that I know of. I base my thoughts on the few experiences I've had and the readings I've had done to connect with some of my loved ones. Many may think it's only my imagination or that I'm a fool, but it felt important to me to tell you that's it's my heartfelt belief that you are not alone, and that you still have a loving connection to your husband even though he has passed.
I really hope that this is helpful in some way. I don't think you need to worry about selling things or moving on eventually, and things like that. Our earthly, messy stuff isn't what concerns those who have passed. But that doesn't mean that they don't wish us to find peace and move past our sadness, or that they don't look after us when we need them.