Suffering is a way that we learn.
Suffering is a part of joy, as joy is a part of suffering, we learn lessons from both, same coin different sides. The Hag makes us look in the mirror, the dark side of ourselves and life. We need to learn to sit with the uneasiness of our feelings and seek compassion for ourselves. Most of us have no compassion for ourselves, we are much harder on ourselves than with others. We all are grasping for happiness, and hide from suffering. Feelings are just feelings, something that is created in our minds through life experiences, and we do not have to be controled by them. We cannot stop the feelings(because they are deepy rooted in our minds), but we can control how we respond to them.
I believe rites of passage is very important for our development. I believe that our culture has become too "kid" centric. We do everything for our children, not letting our children go through the process of making mistakes or seeing life and death.(I am using the term "we" as a culture) We are also teaching our children that growing old is a bad thing. The old are hidden away, made fun of.... have you seen the recent "hooters" commerical?. Throw Mom and Dad into a home, pretend we are not growing old, dye our hair, botox, facelifts... We no longer honor our elders or their wisdom.
These old tales and fables are hidden away, they are "scarry" or to violant, or not politically correct. It does not make the child "feel good" about themselves. It is all about feeling good and not doing good. Our value and worth of things are way off track, most seek material weath, always wanting more and more,... while their spiritual needs are left behind. People are not willing to work for things, they expect to be given more and more. Your Spiritual path is something one must take, it cannot be given. This is why I feel most people must go through trama before they realize the need for a spritiual life.
Sorry I rammbled.... don't know what came over me